Parenting Defiant Youth

Section One: Parenting Difficult Children Test	1-6

Section Two: Why Are We Here? Deciding Which of Your Child's Negative Behaviors You Would Like to Change; Your Expectations of this Program; Why Taking a New Approach to the Same Old Problem May Make Sense to You	7-9

Section Three: Five Things I Love About My Child Positive Traits Your Child Possesses; Your Child's Special Talents; Getting the Perspective of Other Adults	10-15

Section Four: Personality Development-Is it Social or Genetic? Physiological vs. Social Problems; Identifying When, with Whom, or in What Situations Your Child Displays Negative Behaviors	16-20

Section Five: The Three Styles of Parenting Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive; Conflict Survey: How Do You React During Conflict with Your Child?; The Consequences of Passive or Aggressive Parenting; What Messages Does Your Parenting Style Send to Your Child?; The Five Central Messages Behind Assertive Parenting	21-27

Section Six: Using Deactivating and Listening Skills to Become a More Assertive Parent Deactivating Your Anger; Deactivating Your Child's Anger; Twenty-Five Sure Fire Methods for Killing Communication; Keeping the Lines of Communication Open	28-35

Section Seven: Participatory vs. Non-Participatory Discipline Avoiding Power Struggles; Using Discipline to Help Your Child Understand that a Problem DOES Exist; Participatory Discipline; Non-Participatory Discipline; Additional Discipline Your Child Might Respond To	36-42

Section Eight: Problem-Solving Model Identifying Problem Behaviors and Measuring Their Severity; The Problem-Solving Process; Identifying the Root Cause of the Problem Behavior; Helping Your Child Understand That a Problem Does Exist; Identifying the Negative Behaviors to Be Addressed on the Behavioral Contract	43-51

Section Nine: Creating, Implementing and Enforcing a Behavioral Contract The Six Key Areas of a Behavioral Contract; Creating a Contract for Use with Your Child; Enforcing the Contract; Altering the Contract; Helping Your Child Understand the Nature of Consequences; Introducing the Behavioral Contract to Your Child	52-59

Section Ten: Completing Your Commitment Sheet	60-62

Section Eleven: Using the Juvenile Justice System As Your Ally	63-64

Section Twelve: Additional Tools for Parents -Teach Your Child Life Skills Teach Your Child Problem-Solving Skills; Teach Your Child Goal Setting; Teach Your Child How to Handle Worry; Teach Your Child How to Cope with Loss; Teach Your Child How to Deal with Failure in a Positive Manner	65-78

Disclaimer	79

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